Can’t other Types be loners? Not just Projectors?

images-1A Designed to Blossom participant wanted to know how being a loner relates to the other Types. She had read a previous blog I wrote about Projectors and solitude, and felt she could relate to much of what I wrote, even though she was a Generator. Here’s my response: 

I’ve been thinking about your question. And let me first say that you are certainly not the only non-Projector with a deep need for solitude and aloneness. I’m a Generator myself, and consider myself a highly sensitive introverted ‘type’ as much as I consider myself to be a Generator! So I can relate, as can many people like you.

“Loner” is quite a simplified term that can easily reflect so many human tendencies and needs, just as it can show up in any design, regardless of Type. (Same with rebelliousness!)

So as always, I encourage people to take labels like this lightly, to take time to explore what the label even means to them, how it shows up in more healthy and perhaps more conditioned or fear-based ways in their lives, and not get too heavily attached to being, or not being, whatever the label stands for.  

That said, for those of us who feel like loners at times, there are some ways in which an understanding of our designs can illuminate the unique source or flavor of (and perhaps frequency of, or healthfulness of) our own ‘loner’ tendencies. 

One Designed to Blossom participant, for example, asked whether there’s a correlation between the amount of openness in a design, and the need for alone time. I answered that in the most general sense, I would say ‘yes’. 

The more open people are, the more flooded they’re likely to feel by the energies/pressures/stimulation of the world, and the more they’re likely to need alone time. So a very “Open” Generator might genuinely respond positively to significant times of solitude.

Similarly, there’s a certain kind of overwhelm that people with open Sacral centers can feel, and a certain kind of stress that people with open Roots can feel, that might make it particularly important to unplug from the collective buzz. 

Still, our sensitivity doesn’t only reflect the quantity of Open Centers that we have, or the particular nature of the Open Centers we have. We all feel and experience our openness differently. Someone might have one Open Center, and be extremely sensitive in that area… so may need plenty of alone time in order to release the pressures they take in from that one place. Thought it’s less likely, you might find someone with no Open Centers who needs alone time… to spend time with their thoughts, or practice a skill, or…

Other aspects of a design can also point to a need for alone time. People with a lot of Line 1’s, or 2’s in prominent positions, for example, can need time alone to investigate/introspect, or to simply enjoy their natural impulses without having the feeling like someone’s looking over their shoulders. People with Line 6 in their Profiles may need 20 years of ‘alone time’!

Certain channels and circuitry can give people this same tendency. For example, the Channel of the Prodigal (33/13) — even though it’s part of the ‘collective’ and in many ways social Abstract circuit — often generates an internal need to withdraw from the world and reflect on one’s life experiences, before sharing about them. 

Individual Circuitry — that goes on and off, according to an intrinsic pulse, that is deeply creative and at times melancholy — can create a need for withdrawing, diving deep, being creative, and then returning to the world with fresh, new energy.

People with Single Definition (where all of their defined Centers are connected through channels, without any ‘missing’ Gates) may find themselves needing alone time, and not necessarily feel as pulled out of their shell to find other people to give them the experience of being whole and complete. 

If you go deeper into the design, beneath the level of Gates, you’ll find that there are certain people who do particularly well in ‘cave-like’ (or secluded) environments, or people with a certain kind of depth of receptivity that might make them easily overstimulated by the world and in need of withdrawing and spacing out, without pressure to focus or strategize or produce all of the time.

And of course, we all have different relationship to our designs, and to the world around us. It is a spiritual practice for all of us to find that right balance between self-connection and other-connection, between touching base with our own truth and inner peace, and opening up to (and learning how to benefit from) the influences of the world around us.

A lot of the examples I’m sharing about here are ‘positive’ ones — in that they reflect people’s healthy and understandable need for being alone. There is also the possibility that for some, being alone a lot of the time is more ‘not-self’, or coming from a place of fear, than it is being true to their nature. I know a woman with a 4/6 Profile for example, whose life would have been so much more wonderful if she had been encouraged as a child and adult to connect to a wonderful network of friends. But she was conditioned to be a loner, and it took her many years to unleash her social potential… which for her was deeply connected to living out her life purpose.

There’s so much more, but this gives you an idea of the complexity. Hope it helps. : )  

I’d love to hear from anyone else who’s following this thread. What do you experience in terms of your need for alone time… What are you learning about your own right balance?

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